Friday, June 10, 2011

Things people don't like to talk about!

After checking a friends blog I felt the need to blog myself. I was checking on this friend because she has a 3 yr old daughter, has lost 2 babies in the past 10 months, and now she is blessed to be pregnant again!! She is 18 weeks and feeling that sweet baby move! My heart is so happy for them because they are wonderful people. My heart is also sad because it brings up memories of my own loss.

We have about 6 weeks left until we welcome Piper into our family. I can only imagine it being the best day of my life, but in the back of my mind I will be grieving my other baby who should have been born just seconds before her. I want to know what that life would have been like. I would talk all the stress and sleepless nights just to have both my babies come in July 22.

No one talks about it because people think if you don't speak it, it will go away. For a mom it never goes away.

This friend is amazing and speaks of each of her miscarriages, joined a group to help herself and others. I truly feel she has helped me, even though I am not as vocal about my loss. Maybe one day I will be able to help someone like she has helped me. (even if it was just through her blogging)

A quote that really stood out to me:
"If I lost a leg, I would tell them, instead of a boy, no one would ever ask me if I was "over it". They would ask me how I was doing learning to walk without my leg. I was learning to walk and breath without Wade. And what I was learning is that it was never going to be the life I had before."- Elizabeth Edwards

I will continue to learn how to walk without my "other" leg!



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1 comment:

  1. I am with you Julie! It is a hard subject to talk about and I didn't for months after I lost my baby. I dealt with it horribly, but thrugh writing and talking you can find healing! Hugs!!!

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